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Relationship research — in particular that of my friend and mentor and leading relationship expert Dr. John Gottman — shows that successful partnerships depend on strong mutual communication and understanding though not necessarily broad agreement on all subjects. In couples for whom Judaism plays a key role in their lives, building a relationship foundation may require an additional kind of intimate knowledge. Religion introduces an overarching fabric that influences morals, establishes family values, informs personal identity and intergenerational trajectory, and stands to permeate the physical, emotional and psychological — even the spiritual realm. And this is not even to mention the ways it can practically shape everyday life, from food choices to weekend activities to holiday celebrations. Indeed, spiritual connection creates momentum that pushes the relationship forward, giving it a greater sense of purpose and meaning. So how can we get there?
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Are you hungry? Did you want two bagels stacked with spreads on spreads on spreads," my mom will ask you when you visit. And twenty minutes after you've walked in. And again an hour later.
Lianne, 41, took Jacob, her 4-month-old baby, out of his stroller and held him in her arms as we sat down for coffee on the Upper West Side of Manhattan. She and her husband, Mark, conceived Jacob just weeks after they were married about a year ago. Like me, Lianne was once a more observant Jew, having become more religious in her twenties, attracted to family-style Sabbath dinners and holidays. And like me, Lianne believed modern orthodox Jewish men would be more likely to want to marry and have children, which is what she and I both yearned for. She began to date non-observant Jewish men, dipping a toe in here and there, until, like me, she realized that secular Jewish men who wanted to marry Jewish women wanted to marry Jewish women who would eat in non-kosher restaurants and go out before the sunset on Saturday nights after the Sabbath ended.